Elders used to tell - when you point one finger at the other the rest points at you ! This pointing game can happen directly and indirectly, knowingly and unknowingly.
Walking in the sun, all alone by myself for some work I realized how easy it was to find faults with something or anything or even make comments with a belief that they are casual when you are not involved in it, when you don't feel responsible for it.
To simply sit as a spectator and comment is much easy than being in the heat of the stage, nothing will seem funny when you are up on the stage; when you accepted the responsibility of something, responsibility in true sense. Imagine talking in front of a large group of people and when you know that each eye is set on you and every ear on your words. If you messed up anywhere, no matter how silly people may think it is, you can reason that mistake out because you were the one going through it and not the other and you know how it felt even though now you may also think it was silly but you know inside what happened.
'Why did s/he do something?'
'Why can't s/he understand such a simple thing?'
'Why can't s/he just be like this or that?'
Simply 'Why can't situations be like I think it should be?'
I suppose these are the obvious and very common thoughts we find ourselves to be engaged in with respect to people and situations around.
But really can we be in the other's shoe and understand the reason for any behaviour? Aren't we different people and living different lives exactly for the same reason that we are not the same? How do we know really what the other is going through? Through what situations s/he is coming and then putting up even with our non-understanding attitude also? Many a times we feel s/he doesn't understand me, why so? isn't that the other may be feeling the same?
No matter how right you think you are I feel there is no need to try and change the people or situation around. The best teacher, life, itself is teaching everyone then why do we need to take up this duty of concluding something about the other and trying to bring them on the right path or want them to change in a particular way. No matter really how ever hard we tried the fact that YOU are trying to be in the OTHER'S place will not let us have an honest view.
And over and above that if everyone became the same I can't imagine how boring this world will become. I personally won't like to live my life in such a boring world. The flavour is because of the difference it seems! From our food to clothing etc all habits point to this fact as if.
First of all how do we know that what change we want to bring in the other is right? we may testify our attempts through social, economic, cultural etc causes but if we are so smart then why can't we just understand this simple thing that the other is in no way doing anything on purpose. Who likes to be panicked or nagging or worrying/hurrying or stressed? but it just happens as even with ourselves. If we just let people be as they are, not rejecting (and this does not mean that you start supporting them) or reacting but just simply accepting that they are like that for now. This way at-least we will be able to accept our own selves the way we are. We will be able to love ourselves in the true sense, because our own selves seem to be the first victim of all our deeds; good and bad, whatever we like to call them.
So if you want to have some fun yourself let the other also have it(wink).
How good it will be to meet people without any preconceived ideas or notion which we always try to almost thrust on others. The process should begin with oneself because we ourselves become the target of this unnecessary pain. Till how long will we change everything around rather than changing ourselves? Wonderfully if everyone just straightened themselves then as a result everything will straighten up.
Can't we see that the other also may have similar views about you, than who is right? did we ever try to think that why does certain action or situation trouble us? doesn't it points to something inside you, some of your desires, your wants may be!
Do we ever stop and think what are the fingers pointing at you rather than conveniently ignoring our own drawbacks and wearing this false vanity! and actually we can't even be vain properly, we ourselves want to be so different than what we are. If we were really vain we would stop at where we are but we keep searching and desiring and wanting different things. Regretting past and expecting something from the future. All this mess we create around is so confusing. Now we have a thought that we are so great the next moment we detest our own selves.
Really what a funny situation ! At least if we did even one thing totally we can understand it but we can't even do anything totally, not even vanity or self love.
So the next time, any thought, any idea or any conclusion you have made against anyone or anything (including yourself), just wait for a moment, relax and think about the presuppositions backing them, know that nobody is perfect.
Who knows may be then we can help each other, we can really understand things as they are without distortion or colouration, we can look at each other in truth, without fear, threat, pride...
Really its time to open your hands.
No finger pointing towards other so none pointing towards you.
Really its time to let it go... Just take it easy !
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